5 Signs You’ve Forgiven Someone—and What We Often Get Wrong About Forgiveness

What You’ll Learn

• How to recognize when a painful memory has less hold on you, even if it still brings up strong feelings
• How to tell when an offer to help comes from genuine willingness, fear, guilt, or obligation
• What it looks like to understand someone’s behavior while taking the harm they caused seriously
• How to let go of wanting revenge while still seeking accountability
• How to notice when someone else’s successes and setbacks have less influence on your peace
• How self-forgiveness can help you make sense of the choices you made then and trust the choices you make now

You can forgive someone and still feel a sting when you remember what happened. In this episode, I revisit an article I wrote in 2018, Five Ways to Tell If You Have Forgiven Someone, and share how my understanding of those five signs has changed. I talk about what happened after I left my former husband, how years of trying to keep the peace taught me to ignore my own needs, and what it took to trust myself again.

I also share how forgiveness can make room for grief, firm boundaries, and accountability. If you’ve ever wondered whether you should be over it by now or caught yourself thinking, “I should have known better,” I offer a few questions to help you meet yourself with more compassion and notice how much room the experience still takes up in your life.

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Read the article, 5 Ways To Tell If You’ve Forgiven Someone: https://brendareisscoaching.com/2018/01/22/5-ways-to-tell-if-youve-forgiven-someone/