Navigating through life often involves grappling with past decisions, some of which linger as regrets.

In today’s episode Forgive Yourself podcast, I’m sharing the the transformative process of understanding and releasing regrets to stride confidently into a new year.

“We all feel like we get a do over right when we start a new year, but it can be helpful to clean out all of those nooks and crannies and boxes that we have covered up in our minds and in our hearts.”

Regret often shows up as those familiar “If only…” thoughts that haunt us. But here’s the truth—regret can be one of our greatest teachers. By acknowledging its presence and understanding the emotional weight it carries, the door to growth opens. Identifying a specific regret and reflecting on its impact helps create clarity and purpose for moving forward.

“Regret is when you think this sentence, if only I had done this instead, things would be better now.”

One of the most powerful ways to release regret is by shifting how it’s viewed. Uncovering the lessons hidden within experiences reveals personal strengths and insights. When regrets are seen as catalysts for growth instead of burdens to carry, they lose their hold and become opportunities for transformation.

Rewriting the story transforms regret into a pivotal turning point—one that speaks to resilience and the ability to grow. By choosing to view experiences through a lens of compassion, a narrative emerges that reflects strength and self-forgiveness.

“What new story can you tell about this experience that feels empowering and compassionate?”

Growth is a continuous journey, and small steps matter. Extending kindness to oneself—just as one would to a dear friend—can create profound shifts. Simple, actionable steps reinforce the idea that evolution is always possible and ongoing.

“Growth is ongoing… we know that in a couple hours it’ll feel different. Tomorrow it’ll feel different.”

At the heart of this conversation is forgiveness. By embracing self-forgiveness, you release the burdens of the past and open yourself to a future filled with peace and possibility. It’s not about erasing the past but about allowing yourself to move forward without its weight holding you back.

Regrets don’t define who you are—they can shape you into someone stronger and wiser. As a new year begins, reflecting on past experiences and embracing their lessons fosters renewed purpose. You matter, and your story is still unfolding. Regrets can become stepping stones toward a brighter, more compassionate future.