Are you curious about self-awareness?  Or do you feel like you have it down?

Some of us really like it and others not so much.

Yet, when we understand the benefits of self-awareness, that can be a game changer.

Here are some benefits of having self-awareness:

You know more about:            

  • Your values, strengths and weaknesses
  • You understand your habits (good and not so good)
  • You are more in acceptance of your “faults”
  • You know your personality, thoughts and beliefs
  • You know what motivates you

And this can bring more self-confidence and less comparison to others.

When we have a better understanding of ourselves, we are more empowered to make changes and improvements in our lives instead of feeling that we are being victimized by life. 

When we become self-aware, we get to create the life we want because it helps us to realize our passions and where our thoughts and emotions are taking us on our path.  This way we get to pivot at any point to make the changes we want to make. 

Without that awareness, you are letting life happen TO you and not FOR you. This can make us feel more victimized by life instead of being the heroine in our journey.

Self-awareness is considered a vital first step in taking control of our lives so we can create what we want and master our future.

It also allows you to take control of your actions so you can make the necessary changes to get the outcomes you desire. This may include changes to your emotions and your behavior.

Until you achieve this, you may find it challenging to create the life you are desiring to live.

Here are some ideas to increase your self-awareness:

  1.  Identify your current understanding of yourself.
    1. What are you good at?
    1. What needs improving?
    1. What are you willing to change?

This isn’t about getting into comparison with others, just a good inventory of yourself.

  • Keeping a journal.
    • When you write out your thoughts it helps to relieve your mind which makes space for new ideas and information. There is also some magic in being able to see things in writing that gives us a clarity instead of having it magnify in our heads.
  • Daily self-reflection
    • Set aside 10-15 minutes each day to write down your thoughts and answer those questions above.
    •  Some people like to start their day off with this reflection which helps them feel more clarity and a clear head while some like to do this before bed.

Participating in this self-reflection has enabled myself and my clients to be able to respond vs. react in situations.

When we react, it’s coming from a place of hurt and it’s a gut reaction based on our beliefs and wounds that sometimes we don’t know are there.

When we respond, it comes from a place of calmness that is provided through our self-awareness, so we know those beliefs and wounds.

This is the place we want to make our life and business decisions from.

Developing this kind of introspection takes dedication and time.  I have found that a lot of people are afraid to be rigorously honest with themselves.  Even about their strengths. 

The gift of self-awareness can outweigh that fear though as long as you feed the benefit and create a daily habit of knowing yourself.  It’s so worth it.  You are worth it.

Are you willing to know yourself?

When you look in the mirror what do you see?  Who do you see?

Can you look into those beautiful eyes looking back at you or do you skirt around those eyes just to see if your face is presentable?

I spent most of my life afraid to look in my own eyes for fear of what I would see.  The fear was of not being good enough.  That I was the mistake I was working hard not to be.  But I didn’t know that.

I just knew that I needed to look good.  Be good.  Do the right things.  Putting on the smile to hide the pain from the past I was deeply ashamed of.  The choices and decisions I had made that had me ridden with guilt. Thinking I was alone in all of this muck and that everyone else was better than me.  No one else was as unworthy as I was.

Today that is not the case.  When I look in the mirror I see a woman who is willing to accept her past as just that.  The past.  This way I can learn from it and not feel swallowed up by it.
Being willing to take responsibility for those choices and decisions I had already made gave me a shift in perception that I needed to be able to make the choices and decisions that I am currently making to fuel the life I want to create.

This is done through self-awareness.  As we learn to observe ourselves, we can change our thoughts, ideas and behaviors which begins our personal transformation.

Self-awareness means that we stop long enough to acknowledge who we see in the mirror.  The perfect you and the imperfect you.

We all have both sides to us which makes us works in progress.  All of us.

The challenge is to trust that perfect you.  The one you are at your core.  The one you are becoming.  

Here is a way to begin…

We’ve all heard of mirror work and some of us have tried it yet doing it this way can bring change.

Each day take 3 minutes and look into your eyes in the mirror.  Set your timer on your phone. You want to take the full 3 minutes.

  • Look into your eyes
  • What feelings arise?
  • Do you want to look away?  Do you look away?  Does it feel intense?
  • What are the thoughts that arise?  Does it sound like “this is stupid”, “of course i love myself.  I don’t need to do this”.
  • Stay there a little longer
  • Does your mind start to calm down?
  • How about those feelings?  Is there sadness, grief, joy, peace, calm?

Practice this every day for 7 days and see how you feel.  I encourage you to keep going until you can look at yourself and feel peace, even love.

Learning to love yourself in all your complexity can be challenging and so worth it.  Cherishing yourself for all you’ve experienced and the potential yet to come.

The magic lies in loving the one you’re with…you!