The Art of Saying No: Reclaiming Your Time, Energy, and Peace

How many times have you said “yes” when you really wanted to say “no”? Whether it’s agreeing to extra work, attending an event you have no interest in, or taking on responsibilities that aren’t yours, saying yes out of obligation rather than genuine desire drains your time, energy, and peace of mind. Setting boundaries and […]
May 13, 2025
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The Art of Saying No: Reclaiming Your Time, Energy, and Peace

How many times have you said “yes” when you really wanted to say “no”? Whether it’s agreeing to extra work, attending an event you have no interest in, or taking on responsibilities that aren’t yours, saying yes out of obligation rather than genuine desire drains your time, energy, and peace of mind. Setting boundaries and saying no is not selfish—it’s an act of self-respect. When we prioritize everyone else’s needs over our own, we risk exhaustion, resentment, and burnout. Yet, so many of us struggle with this simple two-letter word. We worry about disappointing others, feel guilty for not being “nice,” and often mistake overextending ourselves for being a good friend, employee, or partner. Here’s the truth: Learning to say no allows you to show up more fully for the things that truly matter. Let’s explore why we struggle to set boundaries, the power of saying no, and practical strategies to do it with confidence.

Why We Struggle to Say No

Despite knowing that overcommitting leads to stress and exhaustion, many of us still find it hard to say no. Why?saying no

Fear of Disappointing Others

Many of us are people-pleasers, afraid that setting boundaries will make us seem selfish or unkind. We worry that saying no might damage relationships or make others think less of us.

Societal Conditioning Around Being “Nice”

From a young age, we are taught to be agreeable, helpful, and accommodating. Women, in particular, are often expected to be nurturing and self-sacrificing, while men may fear that saying no will make them appear uncooperative.

Guilt and Obligation vs. Genuine Desire

There’s a difference between doing something out of obligation versus genuine desire. Many of us say yes because we feel guilty turning people down, even if it comes at our own expense. But when you say yes out of guilt rather than true willingness, it breeds resentment. Wouldn’t you rather give your time and energy to things that align with your values and well-being?

The Power of Boundaries

Boundaries are the invisible lines that define what is acceptable and unacceptable in our lives. They help protect our energy, emotional well-being, and time.

Defining Your Non-Negotiables

Before you can set effective boundaries, you need to identify your non-negotiables—the things you refuse to compromise on. Ask yourself:

  • What drains me the most?
  • What commitments align with my values and priorities?
  • Where do I need to set limits to protect my peace?

Recognizing When to Set a Boundary

You know it’s time to set a boundary when:

  • You feel overwhelmed or stretched too thin.
  • You start to resent commitments.
  • You feel drained instead of energized by interactions.

How Boundaries Lead to Deeper, More Authentic Relationships

Saying no doesn’t push people away—it teaches them how to treat you. Establishing boundaries builds relationships based on mutual respect rather than obligation. The people who truly value you will appreciate your honesty.

Practical Ways to Say No with Confidence

You don’t have to be rude or defensive when saying no. Here are some ways to decline with confidence and kindness:

Simple, Direct Responses

  • “I appreciate the offer, but I won’t be able to commit to that.”
  • “I have other priorities at the moment, so I have to decline.”

The “Gentle No” Approach

  • “That sounds great, but I’m focusing on other things right now.”
  • “I’d love to help, but I don’t have the bandwidth at the moment.”

How to Deal with Pushback

Some people may resist your boundaries. If someone keeps pushing, stand firm:

  • “I understand this is important to you, but I have to prioritize my well-being.”
  • “I’ve already given my answer, and I hope you can respect that.”

The Benefits of Reclaiming Your Time and Energy

When you start saying no more often, you gain:

  • More space for self-care and personal growth – Time to focus on your passions, health, and goals.
  • Healthier relationships – Built on honesty and mutual respect rather than guilt or resentment.
  • Increased confidence and inner peace – Knowing that your choices align with your well-being.

Saying no is like a muscle—the more you practice, the stronger it gets. Honoring your boundaries will transform your life, relationships, and mental health. Remember, every time you say no to something that doesn’t serve you, you say yes to yourself.

Disclaimer

The Brenda Reiss Podcast and content posted by Brend Reiss is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user’s own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.

Brenda Reiss Coaching

Brenda Reiss is a Forgiveness Coach and author of “Forgive Yourself” and “Journey to Your Heart Space” and host of the “Forgive Yourself Podcast”. She facilitates workshops and group programs that guide women from being stuck in guilt, resentment, and self-sabotage to feeling freer, more expanded and ready to share themselves and their passions with the world.

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Wondering if you are ready to work on forgiving yourself?

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Buy Brenda’s Book and learn how to…

  • Step into your power
  • Illuminate Your Purpose
  • Replace Regret with Gratitude
Disclaimer

The Brenda Reiss Podcast and content posted by Brend Reiss is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user’s own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.

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