Abuse Recovery

Abuse has become a multi-faceted monster in our world. And by that I mean it comes in many forms and from many sources. Sometimes it is overt, showing itself in the form of being beaten, molested or raped. Sometimes it is more covert, showing itself in the form of neglect, withholding love or professional advancement as punishment or bribery, or constant screaming, threatening and criticizing. And sometimes it is internally inflicted by our own insecurities and self-hatred, which can manifest themselves in a slew of addictions, toxic relationships and illnesses.

Abusive behavior, inflicted on us by another, or ourselves creates layers upon layers of destructive beliefs about what we deserve and are capable of achieving in our lives. And often times, these beliefs are so well hidden and so deeply accepted, we need a guiding hand to lead us out of the depths and back into the light.

  • Do you find you are often undermined or constantly criticized?
  • Are you going through the motions of life but not really feeling any of the joy?
  • Do you look outward, be that to a person, relationship, job or status symbol to prove you are worthwhile?
  • Do you find yourself focusing on your faults and believe the worst in yourself?
  • Are you constantly winding up in similar types of unhappy situations regardless of the changing cast of characters and conditions?
  • Do you believe the problems have reached a point where they are beyond your control?
  • Are you feeling ashamed for the things you have participated in through abuse?
  • Would you rather live in the fear of being abused than face the fear of having to make it on your own?
  • Do you feel like things would get better if you could just be stronger, smarter, prettier, better behaved?

Personally, I have endured a great many types of abuse in my life. I have experienced sexual abuse from family members and male friends of the family, the emotional abuse of a father who neglected and ignored me because he incorrectly suspected I was not his and siblings who were resentful of the pressure of being put in a parental role when my mother was hospitalized, and physical, mental and emotional abuse at the hands of ex-spouses. And through it all, I did a bang-up job of abusing myself with an endless web of beliefs that I wasn’t good enough, smart enough or pretty enough, which culminated in the form of addictions and illnesses such as eating disorders, alcoholism and co-dependence.

Abuse shuts the mind, the heart and the body down. Your heart becomes so used to pain it forgets what it is to feel joy. Your mind gets so used to hearing all the things that are wrong with you that it starts to believe them as truth. And your body is forced to carry all this negativity and endure the resulting pain of the inevitable self-destructive behaviors. It gets to be too much.

Eventually, those of us who have been abused simply go numb. Or we find ways to numb ourselves. There was a time in my life when I was shut down completely. So I know personally and first-hand how feeling stuck, hopeless and helpless can feel when you are in this place. We think we don’t deserve better. And this belief continues to bring us the experiences that prove that to be true, creating a downward spiral of limitation and negativity that can become pretty daunting to break free from.

But these patterns and their corresponding experiences can be overcome. They have been by me and thousands others! You are not simply a victim of abuse. You are also its victor. I stopped abusing myself with my thoughts, my feelings and my behaviors. And when I stopped abusing myself, it trickled outward. It empowered me to stop letting others abuse me.

You have the power within you to do this. In fact, within you is the only place the power exists. And through The Recreation Coaching process, we will clear the things that stand in the way of you recognizing and reclaiming that power. We will find the root of the patterns of abusive thoughts and feelings that hold you captive in what can be a Groundhog’s Day of self-sabotage and countless false starts.

As a victor of 12 step recovery who no longer lives a life defined by addiction, a certified Radical Forgiveness® Coach, a certified Soul Journey’s® Akashic Record Consultant and Heal Your Money Story © Coach, certified Usui Reiki Practitioner and a self-taught master in the art of recovery, I can say with confidence I have what it takes to help you. Together, we will walk step by step out of the abusive habits that are eroding your spirit and into a healthy, supportive and potential filled relationship with yourself and the life you would prefer to live.

Over the course of the six-month Abuse Recovery program,
you will be guided through six key steps to:

  • Identify the bigger picture and common themes at play in your patterns of abuse.
  • Own the empowerment of change by breaking free of the stories that keep you bound to your current circumstances.
  • Eradicate the patterns that continually create proof in your life that you aren’t good enough, pretty enough, smart enough or strong enough.
  • Eliminate the energies of limitations and embody those
    of possibility
  • Activate new opportunities and avenues of forward motion and healthier boundaries and relationships with yourself and others.
  • Operate from your new platform in a way that feeds your passions and fills your life with relationships and a career that fulfills you rather than deplete you.